Comments on: Chinese Wedding – Tea Ceremony http://www.jan-chan.com/2009/09/20/chinese-wedding-tea-ceremony/ Behind the scenes of my [Chinese] wedding. Thu, 22 Jul 2010 03:21:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jan http://www.jan-chan.com/2009/09/20/chinese-wedding-tea-ceremony/comment-page-1/#comment-2112 Jan Wed, 14 Oct 2009 01:44:24 +0000 http://www.jan-chan.com/?p=202#comment-2112 Hi Chips, Traditionally you would wear the qua in the morning when the groom comes to pick you up. You'd also wear it for the tea ceremony at your place as well as the groom's place before changing into the wedding gown for the wedding ceremony. During the banquet, I usually see the bride start with the wedding gown. Then during the soup course the bride would switch to the cheongsam for the toasting. Then one to two courses after than she'd change to her evening gown. I think it's really up to you. I've seen brides that wear their wedding gown for half of the wedding, switch to cheongsam after to toast and wear that for the rest of the night. If you're unsure, maybe talking to the restaurant would help. The manager at the Chinese restaurant gave me a rough idea of when to change depending on how many dresses I'd be wearing. Hi Chips,

Traditionally you would wear the qua in the morning when the groom comes to pick you up. You’d also wear it for the tea ceremony at your place as well as the groom’s place before changing into the wedding gown for the wedding ceremony.

During the banquet, I usually see the bride start with the wedding gown. Then during the soup course the bride would switch to the cheongsam for the toasting. Then one to two courses after than she’d change to her evening gown. I think it’s really up to you. I’ve seen brides that wear their wedding gown for half of the wedding, switch to cheongsam after to toast and wear that for the rest of the night. If you’re unsure, maybe talking to the restaurant would help. The manager at the Chinese restaurant gave me a rough idea of when to change depending on how many dresses I’d be wearing.

]]> By: chips http://www.jan-chan.com/2009/09/20/chinese-wedding-tea-ceremony/comment-page-1/#comment-2102 chips Mon, 12 Oct 2009 06:19:58 +0000 http://www.jan-chan.com/?p=202#comment-2102 Thanks Jan for your wonderful blog and sharing your experiences with us. I'm getting married at the end of the month and trying to figure when and what to wear. Right now I was thinking that I would wear the two piece qua when the groom comes and picks me up. Once we do the tea ceremony at my home and his home, I would change into the white wedding dress before heading to our ceremony. Is this what you would recommend(I seem to remember my friend being in her white dress though for the tea ceremony.) Also do you know what the timing is for the dress changes during the reception. I am assuming it's the white dress first, chinese cheongsam and then a regular evening gown? Thanks in advance for your insight and advice! Thanks Jan for your wonderful blog and sharing your experiences with us. I’m getting married at the end of the month and trying to figure when and what to wear. Right now I was thinking that I would wear the two piece qua when the groom comes and picks me up. Once we do the tea ceremony at my home and his home, I would change into the white wedding dress before heading to our ceremony. Is this what you would recommend(I seem to remember my friend being in her white dress though for the tea ceremony.)

Also do you know what the timing is for the dress changes during the reception. I am assuming it’s the white dress first, chinese cheongsam and then a regular evening gown? Thanks in advance for your insight and advice!

]]> By: Xiaobee http://www.jan-chan.com/2009/09/20/chinese-wedding-tea-ceremony/comment-page-1/#comment-2063 Xiaobee Wed, 23 Sep 2009 01:21:14 +0000 http://www.jan-chan.com/?p=202#comment-2063 Haha, those are long phrases. Actually very funny. I think for the modern tea ceremony, you just say the name of the person and "drink tea" in chinese. As for determining who will be part of it, it is generally close relatives or family friends that you consider almost relatives. Your parents probably have a good idea who to include. We included aunts and uncles but didn't want to include aunts/uncles that were too distant because we didn't want them to almost be forced to give us lai see. Know what I mean? Haha, those are long phrases. Actually very funny. I think for the modern tea ceremony, you just say the name of the person and “drink tea” in chinese. As for determining who will be part of it, it is generally close relatives or family friends that you consider almost relatives. Your parents probably have a good idea who to include.

We included aunts and uncles but didn’t want to include aunts/uncles that were too distant because we didn’t want them to almost be forced to give us lai see. Know what I mean?

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